#223 Living by Our Rules

What are your deal breakers in life? The things that need to exist, or not exist, for us to be in any kind of relationship with others or to even be happy with ourselves. In today’s episode, Leslie and Leslyn share their top three rules in which they live by. These are their deal breakers if you will for their daily lives. Leslie and Leslyn go big picture in this episode while discussing the ideals that mean the most to them. They also share how often these are intertwined and how you can start reflecting on your own life rules!

In this episode, we discuss…

Show Intro [0:01]

Introductions—Key Life Rules [0:12]

Start of the Podcast [0:45]

Live with Integrity [3:10]

Being Kind [3:28]

Customer Service Example [8:16]

Living According to Faith [13:04]

Being Honest with One’s Self [17:06]

Share and Touch Base with Us! [21:10]

Focusing on Family [22:50]

Closing Thoughts [27:10]

Try This at Home! [30:45]

Next Week! [31:19]

Outro [31:55]

Episode Notes:

In today’s episode, Leslie and Leslyn share three of their top rules that they live by each day. It’s important to understand your three major values that you try to live by. Leslyn shares her first rule which is to live with integrity. Just like all the life rules shared today, a lot of things in life can fall under the heading of one major life rule.

Kindness is one that both Leslie and Leslyn share and try to live by. Try to be kind and look at a situation from every angle while trying to be empathetic. Leslyn shares that kindness to her feels like a basic element of humanity. Can you think of a time when extending kindness could not be a requirement? Leslie shares she has the tendency of giving the benefit of a doubt most of the time but not with people who are not kind. Leslie defines being kind as trying to make life good for other people through the interactions we have. Leslie continues by sharing an example of trying to practice kindness even in a less than pleasant situation.

Leslie shares another rule she tries to live by which is to live according to her faith. As a Christian, every aspect of her life she tries to live according to her faith. One of the key elements for Leslie is to surround herself with people who hold similar core principles as her even if that shows up in different ways. Leslyn shares that even though her spiritual practices do not fall under most Christian thinking; she tries to walk the path that Christ demonstrated.

Leslyn’s last rule she tries to live by is honesty. For Leslyn, it is less about people lying to her and more about individual’s ability to be honest with themselves. If people, try to stay more honest in their life this can fall under other life rules such as integrity. Leslyn continues that all of her rules seem to fit tightly together. Integrity, honesty, and kindness are interwoven.

Leslie shares her last rule is to focus on family. This is something you have to be thoughtful with especially when teaching your children things like what respect means to your family. Leslie and Leslyn suggest that you sit back and put thought into what is important to you and what is the big rule that seems to be at the top of all of your values. Leslyn shares for example that if someone has integrity and kindness, they most likely are also going to be respectful.

Leslyn recommends to anyone listening once you have defined your life rules you should communicate them to the people you care about. Such as if you see honesty as a big deal you would want to communicate that and also communicate how to define that.

This week’s Try This at Home is to consider what your values are. If you need help, check out the linked values worksheet below! Determine what values are important for you, communicate, and refine them into what you live by. You should also try to communicate those values to the people you love so they can better understand what those values mean to you and how they will show up in their life!

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Links to Look At:

Check out #202 on Random Acts of Kindness!

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Worksheet on Values

https://www.banyantherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/Partner-Handout-1-%E2%80%93-A-Guide-to-Creating-Values.pdf

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