#212 - Passive Permission - What is it?
Do you tip a waitress even if she doesn’t provide good service? Have you simply turned away from a parent who is being overly aggressive with their child? When does this become our business and where is the line to decide if it is? What message are we sending when we don’t act? These are some of the examples and provocative questions in our lives and today… we’re facing them. In this episode, Leslie and Leslyn discuss Passive Permission, a term that goes deep into our own individual value systems we hold. Leslie and Leslyn also would like to start the discussion with you, the listener, as this week’s Try This at Home!
In this episode, we discuss…
Show Intro [0:01]
Introductions—Passive Permission [0:14]
Start of the Podcast [0:42]
What is Passive Permission? [2:22]
Waitress Example [2:58]
Where’s the Line? [4:26]
Mandated Reporter [4:53]
Baseball Games [8:18]
Presidential Affairs [9:39]
The Welfare System [13:17]
What’s Wrong with That? [16:25]
Debating Charged Topics [17:18]
Dirty Dancing [18:05]
Share and Touch Base with Us! [19:37]
Understanding Passive Permission [19:59]
Disciplining Our Kids [21:43]
Speeding Tickets [22:20]
Car Accidents [22:58]
Not Always Black and White [24:48]
Discuss with Us! [27:32]
Next Week [28:59]
Closing Thoughts [29:03]
Episode Notes:
Coming back to our regularly scheduled episodes, Leslie and Leslyn discuss the provocative question that arises when we decide NOT to act on a situation or behavior we disagree with. Essentially, by not acting, we are giving our permission for the situation or behavior to continue to exist. Our inaction in the situation becomes a passive way of permitting the situation.
Consider this example, you go out to dinner and your waitress gave well... a kind of lousy service. If we were to leave a tip even though our service was subpar, is that giving the person little to no motivation to improve? Or maybe she is having a rough day and that’s why her service is suffering? Leslie and Leslyn question this example and how muddy passive permission can get.
If you can imagine, someone can be doing something or acting in a way that is offensive or just negative to another. Without confronting this behavior in some way, we are indirectly allowing it to continue.
Leslie and Leslyn continue their discussion by giving a number of examples on how passive permission can play out in everyday life. This leads to the big question, when is it our business to get involved? As an individualistic society, we have come to value our “rights” being different, to be “free”. Could this offensive behavior go as far as someone using their civil liberty? Is it just a stylistic difference in how each individual approaches the situation? With this grey area it can be hard to tell where to draw the line. How and when are we to get involved in order to combat this idea as okay to continue.
Looking at our legal system, you can see that there are some things that are consequential without question. We have laws that protect our right to freedom of speech; allowing people to believe they can say whatever they want. We also have laws on more sinister things like abuse; where protections are placed on people being abused. We even have laws about burning flags, trespassing, and disorderly conduct. But, is that really enough?
Better yet, is it too much? Where is the line between personal freedom and permission to insult?
As Leslie and Leslyn discover throughout the episode, there is not a hardline answer or observation in this discussion. Rather, there are a multitude of ideas that are intended to help you, the listener, think carefully about the issues. We hope that this generates some discussion so that as a society, we can be more conscious of when we are passively violating our individual value system and giving others permission to be insulting, disrespectful, or disruptive.
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